OUR ADOPTION STORY
& FAQ ABOUT ADOPTION
Where was Titus adopted from?
Titus was adopted domestically. He was born in SLC, Utah, where we traveled to pick him up after he was born. He has been in our custody and care since he was born. His adoption was finalized on February 19th, 2015.
Were you always planning to adopt domestically?
No, we weren't. But, it was an incredible blessing. When we first began our adoption journey, we were adopting from the Democratic Republic of Congo. After the country closed down issuance of exit letters and I found out I was pregnant with Pacey, we felt God was calling us to change our path.
Did you have to start from scratch when switching to the domestic process?
Yes, pretty much. The paperwork involved in an international adoption is completely different than that in a domestic adoption. Plus, many of the things that are the "same" (e.g.: need of certified copies of birth certificates and marriage certificate) you still have to reorder since those were originally sent to a foreign country. There were some steps we had to take in the international process that were not used at all in our domestic process. But, keep in mind, that a lot of adoption documents, specifically the home study for us, expire after a year and have to be redone even if you stay in a specific "type" of adoption.
What adoption agency did you use?
We used Faithful Adoption Consultants (FAC) to facilitate our domestic adoption. FAC is a consultancy agency who walks alongside you through every step of the process, including post-placement. FAC is based in Georgia. The actual agency we adopted through is Heart and Soul Adoptions.
Did you have to choose an agency in your state?
Nope, you certainly don't have to. Again, our consultancy agency is based out of Georgia and many of the adoption agencies they work with are based outside of Texas. Of course, if you are looking at agencies outside of the state, be prepared to travel to pick up your child. I think adopting locally is great if you find an agency that fits your needs and desires.
You write/talk often about using "positive" language in regards to adoption. Could you give me some examples of that or a place to start learning?
I wrote a post titled "10 Things You Can Ask Me About Adoption" (here) last year that I think really addresses many of the insensitive things adoptive parents and children deal with. It is, of course, not a be-all-end-all list...but I've found that it resonates well with most adoptive parents I know. On top of that, I'd say to generally avoid any words that have negative undertones, even if your heart doesn't mean them that way. Words like "give up", "didn't want them","abandoned", are extremely hurtful and often, extremely untrue. Adoption involves people with feelings and with souls -- and it should be treated in a tender way.
Will you adopt again?
Absolutely! I'm not sure what that will look like -- international, domestic, foster to adopt -- but we certainly feel called to it someday.